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Brian：(01-8-29) 12:51 how are u doing.(任何时候见到任何人都可以说的一句话)
Nikky：(01-8-29) 12:51 i am fine, how r u.
Brian：(01-8-29) 12:53 fine too, actually you are the first one who come up with a response online from overseas(很多人不知道该怎样用英语表述"你是我在网上遇见的第一个外国朋友"这一句话。), so what's your time(你们那里的时间) now, here in China, it's 12:53 am.
Nikky：(01-8-29) 12:54 1:07 am
Brian：(01-8-29) 12:55 so good morning to u and in case(假如) i don't see u, good afternoon, good evening and good night(假如我们以后不能碰上，先祝你每天早上，下午，晚上都好) ,you always stay in the night so late on the net like this?
Brain的建议：如果想在开始赢得别人的好感，一定要自己多说两句恭维对方的话，这样对话就容易进行下去
Nikky：(01-8-29) 12:57 yes because i am off from work
如何进一步深入话题
Brain的要点：建议从对方来自何方，从事何种职业入手
Brian：(01-8-29) 12:58 that's good, where r u and what are u doing up here now? (你一定要学会这句话)
Nikky：(01-8-29) 12:59 I am in the united states and using the my computer.
Brian：(01-8-29) 13:00 u must work in the government
Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:00 I do, but how did u know?(是呀，你怎么知道的)
Brian：(01-8-29) 13:00 well, everything u have told me is technically correct, but it's no use to anyone.(虽然从理论上说你告诉我都是正确的，但一点用也没有)
Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:01 u must work in business(你一定是商人)
Brian：(01-8-29) 13:01 I do, how did u know?
Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:02 well, u don't know where I am, what I am doing here, but u still expect me to help u know that, u are the same before we met。
Brian：(01-8-29) 13:02 :>, Albright, we're even(我们扯平了) now, what is your work exactly, if there is any chance for u to be interested telling me that? (学会这句地道的美国话，能显示你的水平)
Brain的要点：一般人不会在交谈的开始就把自己的职业告诉对方
Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:02 i work in the university, i am teachers aide(助手，相当于assistant).
Brian：(01-8-29) 13:02 o, i see, that is a career i have been pursuing for a long time(这也是我理想中的职业，故意奉承:)。再例如：如果你问老外，Where are you from？不管他回答那个国家，你一定要说"That's a beautiful country."), and how is that going on with you.
Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:02 it is going great.
Brian：(01-8-29) 13:04 i can imagine that, how long have you been working today?
Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:05 i didn't work today i am off work til sept we get the summers off.(放假了，只到9月才开学)
Brian：(01-8-29) 13:06 oh, i am too stupid to forget that, we here in China have the summer holidays too.
Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:06 that's right.
Brain的小结：学会如何询问对方是保持继续交谈的前提，让我们回顾一下，请记住以下几句经典询问句：
where r u and what are u doing up here now?
what is your work exactly, if there is any chance for u to be interested telling me that?
how long have you been working today？
下一步怎么办！
(Brain的建议：如果实在不知道怎么谈，就与对方谈中国，中国在西方人眼中是有着5000年文化历史的文明古国，充满神秘色彩，但很多外国人对中国并不了解，你谈中国，他一定会感谢兴趣的。)
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继续……
Brian：(01-8-29) 13:08 u live in the school or in your own apartment you rent?(住在学校里还是租的房子)
Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:08 i live in apt and rent. what do you do? where do you live?(什么事情都是相互的，你要是能比较好的引起对方的谈话兴趣，她也会反过来询问你的一些情况的，这不，这个Nikky开始问我了！)
Brian：(01-8-29) 13:11 i work for one of the largest companies in China, the marketing dept(我在市场部，简洁明了介绍自己工作地点和职业）
Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:11 what part of china do you live?
Brian：(01-8-29) 13:12 shanghai, have you ever heard of?
Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:12 yes i have, it is busy there yes?
Brian：(01-8-29) 13:13 it's ok, not as busy as you think, a little bit busy in the downtown.(不象你想的那么繁忙，除了市中心外)
Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:14 i have heard of it i have not been there yet but maybe some day.
Brian：(01-8-29) 13:16 u should do, how many cities here in China are in your memory besides shanghai? (试探一下这女子对中国了解多少)if some day you really can be here , you can come to see me , i am just someone who have graduated from college a year ago(我刚毕业一年)(又是一句客套话，百听不厌，所以我们要百说不断)
Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:19 peking,chungking,tientsin,hong kong(北京，重庆，天津，香港，这个Nikky还真知道不少中国城市，拼写有点怪), and I appreciated your kindness.
Brian：(01-8-29) 13:20 well, what is impressive to me is u know a lot of Chinese cities beyond my imagination , you surely know one thing or two (对…非常了解)about China and Chinese people , right?
Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:22 yes i like to learn about other cultures.
Brian：(01-8-29) 13:23 it is immediately apparent that you are the only foreign people I know who knows such a lot of cities in China,swheresdo you live, not the states again!(告诉我确切的地方，不要再说你住在美国了。口语中通常可用"States"直接表示"美国")
Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:24 i live in new york city
Brian：(01-8-29) 13:26 i don't have any idea about the big apple city(纽约又称为"大苹果城").
Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:27 it's crowded(拥挤)
Brian：(01-8-29) 13:27 traffic jam?
Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:28 no ,people
Brian：(01-8-29) 13:33 here in shanghai, a lot of people and a lot of cars, both, shanghai has become one of the most desirable places for people not only Chinese but kind of increasingly foreign people to live too.(上海已经成为中国人最令人向往的城市之一，对外国人也不例外)
Brian的小结：就象我们中国人平常打招呼一样，和老外打招呼也是非常容易的。
简单回顾，举一反三：
What part of China/America do u live?(最简单的一句话，你一定会用！)
How many cities here in China are in your memory besides……?
Shanghai/Beijing/Shenzhen has become one of the most desirable places for the Chinese people to live
If some day you really can be here , you can come to see me(很好的邀请，尽管你知道她不可能来！）
(To be continued ...)
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Brain建议：(如果有机会，试着聊一聊各自的衣食住行，这是每个人必须面对的问题，也许在某些方面，大家都有相同经历，也是彼此极能产生共鸣的地方。)
例如：先谈租房问题，打工族都面临的问题。
Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:34 do u live in apt? (有没有人被这个缩写词弄糊涂？一次在上海举办的韩国2001年IT智能小区展示博览会上我就被apt弄糊涂了，后来才知道是"apartment")
Brian：(01-8-29) 13:36 u bet(口语习惯用法，表示说的很对，下次遇见老外，碰到她说的对或者你想表示认可的话，就用"u bet"), but totally a lodger and i got to pay the rent , in shanghai, to find somewhere good enough is harder than ever(太困难了)!
Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:36 it is hard here too, rent is so very high(纽约房租也很贵的，这句话以我们学过的语法来看，肯定会被挑毛病的，"so"和"very"连用是什么意思？可是没有办法，这可是从地地道道的老外嘴里吐出来的。)
Brian (01-8-29) 13:38 the rent here in shanghai used to be very cheap(以前房租很便宜的), but now it's hard to rent a apt with 20squre meter for 800RMB, put in that will be around 100$
Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:40 wow here it is a couple of hundreds sometimes thousands to rent.
Brian：(01-8-29) 13:40 I can still recall my terrible experience when I first try to find a apt for myself, exhausted almost each day after a long time search and went back to the poor little restaurant I stay, for really a long time I just don't want to do anything and look impassively into the mirror to dream if only I was a local shanghainese(上海人), maybe things will be better.
Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:40 cool, it's lucky u've overcome it, u know, this kind of things happened very frequently in united states too.
Brian：(01-8-29) 13:41 so you got to pay the rent too? but on one side , with the apt, you can cook for yourself , right? that will be cheaper than to eating out and will save you a lot of money (在外面吃费钱)and to eat the food u cook alone is wonderful enough.
Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:42 yes true but i do like to go out and eat on occasion(偶尔).
Brian：(01-8-29) 13:43 that's understandable for a bad cook(可能是橱艺不咋的吧).
Brian的小结：外国人对吃一般都比较感兴趣，特别是中国的吃法，要和他们老外在吃的方面有所切磋的话，你不一定要记得很多个菜名。说实话，每次在大型的外事场合总会遇到陪老外吃饭的情况，很多所谓的翻译预先紧张的不得不把一个个菜名背的滚瓜烂熟，生怕到时候遇到翻不出来的东西却不一定派的上用场。我不这样做，因为很多宾馆的菜名除非把厨子喊来，否则根本不知道是用什么做的。我就曾经遇到过"白鹤晾翅"实际上就是"豆腐加酸白菜"，所以我只需要简单对他们说"enjoy your dinner, u know, I am asked by my superior to give u what hell those courses(这些菜) are made of, I know u have experienced many occasions and been tired of telling those names, so just enjoy it, and if u think it's tasting, please let me know!"这句话一说，老外一定会觉得你不一样。很多老外吃的场合见的很多，已经厌烦了半瓶子水的翻译在一旁词不达意介绍菜名，所以你还是让他先吃吧。
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Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:44 u kidding me, i love to cook want to learn how to cook proper Chinese food(我想知道中国菜怎么烧的)
Brian：(01-8-29) 13:46 you get it! Chinese food is really tasting probably kind of the best food in the world, U know, there is an increasing number of Yankees(美国人) who came all the way to China just want to find a woman to marry with, for the good cuisine tradition, i just can not imagine how to live a lifetime with hamburger(我不敢想象你们美国人怎么能就着汉堡包吃一辈子).
Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:49 ah yes do u eat hamburger?
Brian：(01-8-29) 13:50 every once in a while(不常吃)。KFC or Mc donald ,which one is more popular in the states? (在美国，肯德基和麦当劳那个更受欢迎？这个问题可以随便拿个老外来练习)
Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:52 mc donalds
Brian：(01-8-29) 13:52 why, just cuz(因为) Americans like beef than chicken?personally i like KFC, it's more tasting(可口，好味道) and some sort of Chinese people's style(符合中国人的饮食习惯), seems like we Chinese prefer the chickens .
Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:54 i don't know i don't like either too much myself(我两个都不爱吃，外国人好象都不喜欢吃这种高热量的junk food)
Brian：(01-8-29) 13:55 then what u like, u do not like hamburgers ,how about the rice ,do u eat rice in your daily life? we, the regular Chinese's main food(那你们吃米么)
Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:58 i LOVE rice
Brian：(01-8-29) 13:59 i am a good cook and my cuisine capability(烹调手艺) is really good
Nikky：(01-8-29) 14:00 what do u cook well? tell me a dish
Brian：(01-8-29) 14:01 a bunch of things:Chinese Tofu(豆腐), vinegar fish(糖醋鱼), and some short ribs(小排)(这些常见的中国菜英文说法最好记住)。
Nikky：(01-8-29) 14:03 how do u make vinegar fish
Brian：01-8-29 14:05 it's really sophisticated to tell you that on the net, we get the different fishes and different seasonings(调料), so even tell you exact the way i make , maybe you will bring up with a different one(鱼和调料都不同，即使告诉你了，你也做不出我这味来。实际上我做的vinegar fish最难吃)
Nikky：(01-8-29) 14:07 it sounds good though(听起来就已经不错了)
Brian：(01-8-29) 14:09 Yup (表示肯定，相当于Yes)
Nikky：(01-8-29) 14:10 i would love to visit your country one day so much to learn
Brian：(01-8-29) 14:11 u mean it？(你说真的么)
Nikky：(01-8-29) 14:11 yeah, and what do u do in your occasional time? (平时都干些啥)(经典询问句，这句话我们也可用随时拿来问对方)
Brian：(01-8-29) 14:11 well, I like movies so much and bought the movie DVDs and I really loved them and I kept them in my bedroom, and when I get really, really depressed, and I couldn't find anybody to talk to, I took the movies out and watch…..(我喜欢看电影，非常喜欢，当我难过郁闷，找不到别人和我说话时，我就看DVD。寂寞经典自白，向每一个可能见到的老外说出这几句话，一定要连贯！)
Brian的小结： 上面的一段寂寞独白实际上是我从另一外国朋友那抄袭来的，我几乎是一个字不差的把它说给Nikky听，因为我有那位外国朋友很喜欢看电影，幸好我也有相同的兴趣。但之所以这段话给我留下很深的原因并不是这个，原因是她说这段话给我听的时候，露出的牙齿很漂亮，给我的印象非常深，我又让她pardon了一遍。
这个小节不多，但好句子有不少：
KFC or Mc donald ,which one is more popular in the states?
I don't like either too much myself. (再也找不到比这句话更地道的句子了)
and what do u do in your occasional time?
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Brain的建议：谈完自己的情况，可以谈家庭，可以涉及小孩、爱人、父母等，这也是一个安全又普遍的问题。
Brian：(01-8-29) 14:34 thanks a lot! in China we call this in terms like "li jie wan sui" (中国有句俗语叫"理解万岁") means it's really good to find someone who can understand you , so thank you, from your list I know that you are born in 1973, so you must be 28 now and you said you love kids so much , do you have any kids? (如果对方有小孩，没准他会同你滔滔不绝的聊天，直到你感到厌烦。)
Nikky：(01-8-29) 14:35 no I do not have any children, but hope to have some one day.
Brian：(01-8-29) 14:36 so you got married , right? how is your husband doing
Nikky：(01-8-29) 14:37 no I am not married unfortunately :-(
Brian：(01-8-29) 14:37 oh, I want to know , in American, what is the average age for women to have their children, you know, in China, it's probably sort of 25-30
Nikky：(01-8-29) 14:38 here it varies(情况各有不同), so many younger ones have kids(很多人在很年轻时就有孩子了)
Brian：(01-8-29) 14:39 I am sorry, I had thought you have married, seems not acting your age，why , you have never met someone in your life to fall in love with? (从没有遇到你喜欢的人么)
Brian的小结：问问对方有没有男朋友，或者女朋友，绝对很有趣，说不定您们之间会在此基础上聊出一段异国情缘，也有一开始就抱着找女朋友的态度聊天的狂人，说不定很真能碰上一两个美国恐龙呢。
好句子：
I don't act my age (我与我的年龄不相称.比如看见一个小女孩，不点大，言谈举止却是个大人，这时候就可以说"she doesn't act her age!")
(To be continued............)
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Nikky：(01-8-29) 14:40 I don't know how to put it(我不知道从何说起)
Brian：(01-8-29) 14:41 that's ok(结婚与否，什么时候结婚，这是年青人之间喜欢聊的一个的话题)
Nikky：(01-8-29) 14:42 are u, are u married? have girlfriend? ?(绝对经典询问句，一定要牢记！)
Brian：(01-8-29) 14:44 i am just a year after schooling, definitely not married, Man is incomplete until he is married. Then he is finished. (男人不结婚算不上完美，一旦结婚就完了)I heard a bunch of stories like the little boy asked his father, "Daddy, how much does it cost to get married?" And the father replied, "I don't know son, I'm still paying."
(下面讲的是一段对方刚刚失恋，Brain怎样安抚受创伤的心灵，且看下面怎么一步一步深入……)
Brian：(01-8-29) 14:46 you are not married , and you have never met someone you love and not a virgin, do you possibly mean that you gave your most valuable cherry to those you do not love?
Nikky：(01-8-29) 14:48 good joke, i loved someone once and we been together for some time and he dumped me(他把我甩了) and there has been no one since(以后就没有什么后文了).
Brian：(01-8-29) 14:48 oh, i am sorry to hear that(安慰人的话，请记住！)
Nikky：(01-8-29) 14:49 it is ok he didn't love me as i loved him(他爱我没有我爱他那么深)(为什么总是这样结局？为什么受伤的人总是我？)
Brian：(01-8-29) 14:50 how much you love him and how long your story last before he dumped you.
Brian：(01-8-29) 14:51 he dumped you for a new one? (他是寻新欢去了么)
Nikky：(01-8-29) 14:52 well this is going to sound funny but he was my 1st boyfriend, we met last yr and dated for 7 months and he dumped me(听起来有点好笑，但事实是他是我第一个男朋友，我们在一起7个多月的时候，他甩了我)
Nikky：(01-8-29) 14:52 no he claimed his mother didn't approve of me but i think it was more(他说他妈不同意，但我想原因不止这个)
Brian：(01-8-29) 14:53 an excuse(借口)？
Nikky：(01-8-29) 14:53 yes it was and he left me broken hearted(伤心欲绝)
Brian：(01-8-29) 14:53 as soon as he got you, he dumped you?(他一得到你就把你甩了么)
Nikky：(01-8-29) 14:54 yes and i was a dumbass(口语：愚蠢的人) to let it happen
Brian：(01-8-29) 14:54 i can understand you and how you feel
Nikky：(01-8-29) 14:55 well i have given up on love and hope of ever getting married
Brian：(01-8-29) 14:56 don't cry on the spilt milk(习惯用法：不要为打翻的牛奶哭泣), right, you still have the right and deserve to have a better man, there are still a lot of good guys in this world(世上还是好人多)(天涯何处无芳草), so now he got a new one?
Nikky：(01-8-29) 14:57 i am not sure but i believe he does(我不知道，但我相信他有新欢了)
Brian：(01-8-29) 14:59 When a woman steals your husband, there is no better revenge than to let her keep him(当另一个女人偷了你的男人时，你最好的报复方法就是让她们去吧). And what u need to do is forge him.
Nikky：(01-8-29) 15:01 i am trying, but the sad part about most men in my country is that looks matter more than how a person is inside(长相比内在重要) and on that level i feel i will find no one.
Brian：(01-8-29) 15:02 just try to forget and u will eventually get what you want and believe yourself
Nikky：(01-8-29) 15:04 i try, but when u have little experience as me, u doubt self often(如果你也有我一样的经历的话，你也会迷惑的)
Brian：(01-8-29) 15:05 he just bumped into your life earlier than the other one, do believe in your life there must be someone who do fit for you!(他只不过是在你的生命中提前来到而已，相信应该有更合适你的人)
Brian的小结：这一小节中，远在纽约的Nikky向我吐露了自己的一些经历，我把这种成功归决于自己聊天基本功的扎实，同时我也学到了恋爱中谁把谁踹了原来是用"dump"一词呀。
好句子：
I met him several months ago and there has been no since(我几个月之前遇到过他，以后再也没有见到过他)
Man is incomplete until he is married. Then he is finished.(很多结婚的男人有同感！)
Looks matter more than how a person is inside(很多说"how a person is inside matters more than looks"实在是因为长的太难看）
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Nikky：(01-8-29) 15:05 thanks
Brian：(01-8-29) 15:06 think about the film "Sleepless in Seatle"(一部老掉牙的无聊的电影).
Nikky：(01-8-29) 15:07 yes i love that movie
Brian：(01-8-29) 15:08 in which that Hanks seems to have a lot of trouble recovering from the death of his wife and thinks that he will never fall in love again, but Megrin entered into his life , everything changed!
Brian：(01-8-29) 15:08 and the same thing is for you too
Nikky：(01-8-29) 15:10 i wish i could believe that, but it is movie, have u met someone yet?
Brian (01-8-29) 15:11 me? i did have a girlfriend in the school, but for a combination of factors(一系列原因) ,we just depart after graduation
Nikky：(01-8-29) 15:12 aww sorry to hear
Brian：(01-8-29) 15:13 but not like you, i did not dump her, neither did she do that to me.
Nikky：(01-8-29) 15:14 u both decided to part? that sounds fair
Brian：01-8-29 15:15 love never sounds fair or some sort of unfair , Getting married is very much like going to a restaurant with friends. You order what you want, then when you see what the other person has, you wish you had ordered that,(结婚就好比上餐馆，你已经点了菜，但看见别人点的菜后，你又想点那些菜) I just want to have as more chances as possible. (我只想给自己多一点点菜的机会而已)
Brian：(01-8-29) 15:16 be kidding, u know, for a short period of time after we depart , i have a broken heart like you but i managed to make things go on.
Nikky：(01-8-29) 15:17 yes，love does hurt，was she your 1st girl?
Brian：(01-8-29) 15:17 you bet. And I spend a lot of time---- I spend time with myself, I think a lot has happened to me since that, a lot of things have happened to me, but I try to keep my life in perspective(我努力使自己的生活变的乐观起来).
Nikky：(01-8-29) 15:17 u've done pretty well by it, yes i am going on i have no choice
Brian：(01-8-29) 15:18 you get to be a bit more passive about your attitude, not just cause you have no choice for you to go on!
Nikky：(01-8-29) 15:19 it was like i refused to sit at home and cry I had to go to work i had to go to school so no time
Brian：(01-8-29) 15:20 right, that's right. let your hands full (有事情做就会忘记伤痛):>
Brian：(01-8-29) 15:21 you are not pregnant after you gave it to him?
Nikky：(01-8-29) 15:22 no, but sometimes wish i were i was ready to marry this man and spend the rest of my life with him but i just got played for a fool.
Brian：(01-8-29) 15:25 maybe you are not played for a fool, maybe he loved you too, definitely when--- u know, u surely know what I mean ------when he made love to you, i think he love you but , for some reasons, he got to leave you
Nikky：(01-8-29) 15:27 maybe that is possible, i do believed he loved me just not enough and i feel like fool for opening my heart when i planed.
Brian：(01-8-29) 15:27 i think that on average, the western people have a more open mind on the sexual issues, but seems that's a serious misunderstanding on my part(看来我误解了)!
Nikky：(01-8-29) 15:28 how so explain?
Brian：(01-8-29) 15:28 you let me change the initial thought
Nikky：(01-8-29) 15:29 i mean i believe in love and i only was with him cause i thought he was the one but i made big mistake thought with my heart instead of my head.(Nikky说话有个特点不知道你发现了没有，不怎么喜欢打标点)
Brian：(01-8-29) 15:30 there is no possibility for him to come over back(他有可能再回到你的身边么)?
Brian的小结：谈到这的时候，仿佛Nikky就在我的身边跟我说话，真有一种快感。刚开始和她接触的时候，我还以为她和我一样无聊的只能在网上聊天呢，现在对她的想法和印象慢慢的偏转过来，这也是一个很有感情的女人，经过后来的接触才知道她原来还是一个纽约什么什么大学的经济系老师，应该不会骗我吧？这么远，也犯不着呀，对了，外国朋友一般不骗人，即使是质量很差很差的老外骗你的可能性也很小，但不幸的你如果真的遇到了某个老外骗你，我只能说"你真倒霉"。复习一下刚才的句子：
That's a serious misunderstanding on my part
Getting married is very much like going to a restaurant with friends. You order what you want, then when you see what the other person has, you wish you had ordered that.(很多结婚男人的又一个同感)
(To be continued .........)
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Nikky：(01-8-29) 15:31 i wish but i have no idea and i try not to fool self into thinking it.
Brian：(01-8-29) 15:33 so you still love him, that's why you feel like a fool
Nikky：(01-8-29) 15:34 yes and mad at myself because of it cause leaving makes me think he didn't love me at all or not enough.
Brian：(01-8-29) 15:35 for women, love is everything(对女人来说，爱情有时意味着一切), what does he do, is he also a teacher aide?
Nikky：(01-8-29) 15:36 no he develops pictures(冲胶卷师，或者照相师)
Brian：(01-8-29) 15:37 maybe its just your always thought that he didn't love you at all or not enough made him away, you got to make him feel relax a little.
Nikky：(01-8-29) 15:37 i did everything to make HIM happy
Brian：(01-8-29) 15:38 pic developer, so during the past 7 months he must have taken a lot of pics for you?
Nikky：(01-8-29) 15:39 no, he never took me to meet his friends, i met his parents and they were nice he said his mom didn't approve of me well either she is actress cause she treated me very nice(他的妈妈实在是个演员，因为她对我很好，却背地里不同意).
Brian：(01-8-29) 15:40 a woman who treated u very nice doesn't necessarily mean she has to approve of your marriage to her son. (一个对你很好的人不一定意味着就同意自己儿子和你结婚)Plus, in your way, have you ever thought about his real needs？maybe he needs more inner room(也许他需要自己的一些个人空间), not just have to answer his girl's question or always hear his girl saying "I don't think u love me enough"
Nikky：(01-8-29) 15:41 yes good point. but it doesn't matter i am sure he has someone else now that his mother will like and has moved on so it is no big deal(没有什么大不了的，口语).
And i never said kind of not enough love things to him, was never under him bugging him hell(bug someone hell,使某人生厌烦，我从来没有让他感到厌烦过) he lived in another state he had all the room he needed(他住在另外一个州，拥有自己想有的所有空间).
Brian：(01-8-29) 15:45 no big deal? anyway, he is your first man, first itself is something we can hardly forget. Which state he live, and how long does it take for you to meet him .
Nikky：(01-8-29) 15:46 he lives in Virginia(维吉尼亚州) it takes 4 hrs by bus
Brian：(01-8-29) 15:47 and his current girlfriend didn't know anything about you and he? neither does she mind his ex-relationship with you?
Nikky：(01-8-29) 15:48 i don't know if he is dating i am just assuming(我不知道他是否有了新女友，我只是在猜测)
Brian：(01-8-29) 15:49 but you told me you got to work and got to school , so you still have time for assuming ?
Nikky：(01-8-29) 15:50 i try not to think bout him at all
Brian：(01-8-29) 15:51 got to make him understand you can work and live without him and with no difference(让他明白没有他你照样能活的很好). i hope not to defend you with the question: what about if you didn't give yourself to him, will you feel better, not like your current desperate situation.
Nikky：(01-8-29) 15:52 yeah, I guess I wouldn't feel like fool
Brian：(01-8-29) 15:53 I might as well ask u, are u going to get married or what?(or what,别的什么，经常用于口语中)
Nikky (01-8-29) 15:54 or what? well, it is either yes or no , I don't know, I don't know the answer to that question. For the past 7 months the answer has been yes, but now I will say that it depends(这个口语词组的使用频率极高，it depends，"那要看情况"), I was thinking about all the people who have----u know---who have gotten married and are now divorced(我在想那些结婚的人们-----如今却又离婚了), I think if we had gotten married, we probably wouldn't still be together because of the pressure(所以如果当初我结婚了的话，可能现在早因为压力而离婚了). so I am pouring out about me, tell me more about you？(我已经把我的事情都告诉你了，你呢，什么情况？)
Brian的小结：就我个人来讲，说一句流利地道的句子比说出一个单词要有成就感；说一大段流利地道的段落比说一句流利地道的句子要有成就感。所以我主张脱口而出很大一段，很多人告诉我这有点不现实，我连一句话都不知道该怎么说，你叫我怎么说一段呢？
本小节的好句子：
It's no big deal(没什么了不起的)
I don't know the answer, I'm just assuming(猜测)
It depends!
Now I am pouring out about me, what about u? (我已经把我的事情都告诉你了，你呢，什么情况？）
(To be continued..............)
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